Matrimony

In a conversation with a friend, the idea of marriage popped up... For some reason, everybody around me is getting married... This friend in question is probably going to meet his mate... For me, I would guess that perhaps its my predictive personality that tends to drive people away (or I drive them away)... Either way I had given up the idea of having a mate long time ago... and recently I revealed this to a friend...

In any case, I was sort of "told off" by the friend who seems to think... and I quote:

Marriage... it's a FuNdAmenTaL need. Not a superficial "want", but an emotional a biological need... which cannot be fulfilled in any other way except matrimony. There are people who choose to remain single though, but unfulfilled needs cause frustration.

I have to agree... Marriage may be a fundamental need... However, it is not a requirement for life to progress... Emotions... that is a topic for another post... Frustration is only effect of unfulfilled need because you have not given up on the need and you refuse to live/love yourself...

Thus we were created... dependant upon each other... and the Creator has placed comfort for spouses in each other. So when the Creator ordains something going against it is hardly a good idea.

Well I really can't argue with that statement... We are created dependant upon each other... Man and Woman; each unique and complete in their own ways... But the Creator did not force it upon us... He gave us an option... And if I decide that I can better worship Him without a mate, so be it...

Those who say that they don't need the enwrapment of affection and that they're better off alone... are LiViNg In deNIaL!!

Not necessarily... everybody definitely needs affection and would love to live in it for their whole lives but the reality of the fact even if you do have affection and love, that is not the only thing worth living for in this world...

Family and friends make our lives beautiful... but cannot fill the blazing void for a companion inside us... you can't fit square pegs in round holes.

Correction, if the hole's big enough, you can fit anything in it...

Previous unpleasant experiences, general aversion or the lack of suitable matches can make us reluctant for a partnership... BUT... none of these reasons are irreversible or beyond rectification!

True but does it really need reversal... Does it need rectification?

Live and let live... Learn to live with yourself and you have the character to live with others...

Trials

I recently listened to parts of a talk given by one of the intellectuals over here talking about trials... From what I listened to, it was a great talk, I just regret that I didn't listen to the whole talk...

In any case, what I wanted to say was that there are trials for each and every person in this world... A rich person's money is his trial... A poor person's poorness is his trial... A proud warrior's defeat is his trial...

Trials can be put forth as simple as a meeting with another person... A well-off person is walking down the street and sees this poor person at the corner... That is a trial...

Trials can be in situations... A single beautiful woman asks a man to approach her... That is a trial for the man...

Trials can be a test of morals... doing the right thing... standing up for the truth... defending the right and stopping the wrong...

But trials are not limited to something that happens to a person... it can happen to a people... Katrina... Tsunami... the earthquake in Kashmir...

Every single minute of every person's life is a trial... Those trials can either make those people or break them... Lead them to the right path or lead them to misery...

Are we on the right path?

People

It happens, sometimes, that you know a person for several years and then you find out something new about them and you get shocked... I bet it has happened to you once or twice...

What really gets me is that people think that when they have known the person for a long time, they know everything about that person... Take wives for example, after years of marriage the wife finds something out that she never knew about the man she spent most of her time on... and this causes frustration and eventually, if they can't cope with that, the relationship ends...

What you have to understand is ... and what you have to find solace with is the fact that you will never find out everything about that person... But you might find out everything there is to know about that person...

The mind is a beautiful thing... but it belongs to that specific person... and the only way to it... is the heart...

On this note, I, with all my heart, welcome the new member Princess Donna. I will probably never find out everything about her or everything to know about her but I think this is the beginnings of a good partnership...