Matrimony

In a conversation with a friend, the idea of marriage popped up... For some reason, everybody around me is getting married... This friend in question is probably going to meet his mate... For me, I would guess that perhaps its my predictive personality that tends to drive people away (or I drive them away)... Either way I had given up the idea of having a mate long time ago... and recently I revealed this to a friend...

In any case, I was sort of "told off" by the friend who seems to think... and I quote:

Marriage... it's a FuNdAmenTaL need. Not a superficial "want", but an emotional a biological need... which cannot be fulfilled in any other way except matrimony. There are people who choose to remain single though, but unfulfilled needs cause frustration.

I have to agree... Marriage may be a fundamental need... However, it is not a requirement for life to progress... Emotions... that is a topic for another post... Frustration is only effect of unfulfilled need because you have not given up on the need and you refuse to live/love yourself...

Thus we were created... dependant upon each other... and the Creator has placed comfort for spouses in each other. So when the Creator ordains something going against it is hardly a good idea.

Well I really can't argue with that statement... We are created dependant upon each other... Man and Woman; each unique and complete in their own ways... But the Creator did not force it upon us... He gave us an option... And if I decide that I can better worship Him without a mate, so be it...

Those who say that they don't need the enwrapment of affection and that they're better off alone... are LiViNg In deNIaL!!

Not necessarily... everybody definitely needs affection and would love to live in it for their whole lives but the reality of the fact even if you do have affection and love, that is not the only thing worth living for in this world...

Family and friends make our lives beautiful... but cannot fill the blazing void for a companion inside us... you can't fit square pegs in round holes.

Correction, if the hole's big enough, you can fit anything in it...

Previous unpleasant experiences, general aversion or the lack of suitable matches can make us reluctant for a partnership... BUT... none of these reasons are irreversible or beyond rectification!

True but does it really need reversal... Does it need rectification?

Live and let live... Learn to live with yourself and you have the character to live with others...

Trials

I recently listened to parts of a talk given by one of the intellectuals over here talking about trials... From what I listened to, it was a great talk, I just regret that I didn't listen to the whole talk...

In any case, what I wanted to say was that there are trials for each and every person in this world... A rich person's money is his trial... A poor person's poorness is his trial... A proud warrior's defeat is his trial...

Trials can be put forth as simple as a meeting with another person... A well-off person is walking down the street and sees this poor person at the corner... That is a trial...

Trials can be in situations... A single beautiful woman asks a man to approach her... That is a trial for the man...

Trials can be a test of morals... doing the right thing... standing up for the truth... defending the right and stopping the wrong...

But trials are not limited to something that happens to a person... it can happen to a people... Katrina... Tsunami... the earthquake in Kashmir...

Every single minute of every person's life is a trial... Those trials can either make those people or break them... Lead them to the right path or lead them to misery...

Are we on the right path?

People

It happens, sometimes, that you know a person for several years and then you find out something new about them and you get shocked... I bet it has happened to you once or twice...

What really gets me is that people think that when they have known the person for a long time, they know everything about that person... Take wives for example, after years of marriage the wife finds something out that she never knew about the man she spent most of her time on... and this causes frustration and eventually, if they can't cope with that, the relationship ends...

What you have to understand is ... and what you have to find solace with is the fact that you will never find out everything about that person... But you might find out everything there is to know about that person...

The mind is a beautiful thing... but it belongs to that specific person... and the only way to it... is the heart...

On this note, I, with all my heart, welcome the new member Princess Donna. I will probably never find out everything about her or everything to know about her but I think this is the beginnings of a good partnership...

Control

You see/hear so many people talking about controlling your destiny... Life is what you make of it... Decisions are what you make of them... blah blah blah...

But what can you really control if you can't control yourself...

All my life, I have been about controlling myself... And I had done that successfully... until recently... Unfortunately, I was never taught that I should control the situation more than controlling myself... Well maybe I'll teach my children that...

Point being... Recently, I have lost control over myself...

The Criterion

In my previous post, I forgot to mention the criteria... the criteria to differentiate right and wrong...

Every human is born with a soul... a conscience... which eventually moulds itself according to the surroundings... Unfortunately for this day and age, the surroundings seem to be quite immoral... this creates a generation where conscience is no longer consulted and the mind follows a different path than the heart and soul... and this new generation is where the death of morals lie...

Unless... unless we revive morals...

But where do we get the morals... Religion is usually the first place to look... but not right now... let's look at our hearts... our souls.. our inner self... and then let's look at the world... nature... then we'll look at religion...

As young'ins we have a slight idea... For example, the early men even used to hide their privates... It is naturally instilled in us... but eventually the surroundings pressure us and we give way...

Nature has its way of telling us things... but it also lets you do the completely opposite... The only explanation, I think, is that Nature tests us... it tells you something and waits for you to slip up... then waits for others to slip up the way you slipped... And when there are enough people, out of the blue something huge happens and a couple of thousand people die... and those who are left alive have been taught a lesson...

All this leads to religion... Religion builds on these morals... If they are still intact, following a religion is not a problem... If they aren't, you are on a rocky path... Religion builds on that base... And if you have that base, selecting THE religion becomes extremely easy... Because, in your inner self, you are searching for it... It is just a matter of time where you read about the various religions from authentic (authentic because there are loads of texts you can find easily that provide you with false info) books and select the right one... Because that specific religion builds on that base... It gives you that spiritual uplift that has been missing all these years of uneasiness... of emptiness... of frustration... looking at the state of the world... looking at what is happening around you... looking at what has happened... thinking about what will happen...

But in the end, people go astray... they lean more towards people rather than the religious scriptures... they hear more from softspoken people and forget the aggressive ones... they get confused... they listen to the heart more than mind or vice versa... but all that matters is that it should be you who chooses... however, in the end someone chooses for you... and that is why you are at a loss...

Remember... it is easy to go astray... it is hard to stay on the right path...

Death of Morality

What is right and what is wrong? I think this has been asked over and over again everywhere in the world in all times... The first man down to the last this question will keep on repeating itself... With different answers...

But the real question is not this... and people have failed and will continue to fail to realize that the actual question quite obviously is what is the criteria of right and wrong...

In this day and age, there is a very thin, almost transparent, line between these two... I say it as if it were black and white... The thing is, it is black and white... There is no grey area in between... There is no such thing as "okay"... It is either right or it is wrong...

There are some times when things that are normally wrong are right.. such as telling a lie to stop a fight... but it is for a greater good and therefore it is right... It does not fall in the grey area...

I just hope some people will start a revolution for the resurrection of morals...

Another year...

Over a month since I last posted.. Alot of things have happened.. Quite a few things with my life... Quite a few with the world...

Things change.. and will continue to change... who reflects eventually benefits but most of us today are too busy or too lazy... For me, work is a waste... A simple waste... as an application specialist I didn't get enough work... and when I asked for more, I was assigned as a PMO Officer for several projects.. Even then the workload wasn't quite enough... I still had free time and still do... so I gave in to my movie addiction... and I've seen almost all recent and some old movies at work...

Personally, I am a very quiet person and I find it extremely hard to express anything I have to say... I don't know, I never met someone who I could relate to... I always remember being the odd one out... and for some reason, I love being alone... Don't get me wrong... I'm not a sociophobe... but being alone gives me true freedom... and I long for that... all the time...

Festivities?

I was asked whether festivities were around the corner... I had totally forgotten about the following days... I guess I won't be celebrating... Already had a BBQ party last weekend... I did the BBQ... quite fun... Now I'm tired and have a cold... enough festivities till the end of the month...

Simple... To the point... always...

Touched...

So many things happen but we don't stop to realize the essence of each and every thing... sometimes we're busy... sometimes we're not looking... sometime's we just don't care...

But there are things in this life... from the poor person on the street to the rich man in his Bentley that people just cannot ignore...

The thing of the thing is... Each thing is a sign... A sign from the one who created this Universe... A sign telling you something... but most of the time we're tuned to a station of our choice and don't bother tuning to others because we have selected what we want to hear... The static in between stations means something... and that is what we as humans will never bother to understand...

And the heart sinks...

One week makes a difference...

I took one week off work to see if it actually makes a difference... even after my one month vacation... I just couldn't get back to work the way I wanted to... But this week helped me a lot I think...

This week I went to Dubai.. met some old friends and had sort of a good time... watching movies from morning till afternoon then going out with friends or something or the other... and then watching more movies till late at night...

How did that make a difference?

Well I guess it wasn't really the week.. or my timetable... It was the water... Even though I didn't spend too much time on the ocean (I wanted to though but got lazy after I saw the movies)... But I love the white sand... the breeze... the white foam... the sound of water splashing... but most of all I love the endless amount of water that continues throughout your view....

Beach is heaven...

Another year... Another wasted life...

If you have enough free time (which I seem to have quite a lot of)... just sit/lie down under the cloudy sky looking at it... and just think...

Think about your life... What has been done by you... and what people have done... and what you have done about what other people have done... Its amazing... not because you get to use your wasted brain cells in the last year... but because you understand how small you are in this world... Your significance...

It's like comparing the universe with the earth... Loads of different places yet to be discovered... So many people in these places with similar or different feelings... unique experiences...

While people celebrate birthdays, there are others mourning deaths...

Anyway, its quite comforting to have not been wished this year... Innocent deaths in this year have been more than innocent births and I comfort myself in this fact...

Everybody's a comedian...

I'm sure a lot of you have heard that some time or the other.. But here's where the problem is...

Everybody's a scholar...

Its just not true.. I've so many people talk about this or that but they just don't know what they're talking about (this does not necessarily include my guest last weekend)... No.. its a lot of other people that I have met either on the net or in real life...

So many people have degrees and certifications but when it comes to practical information they just don't cut it... They lack simple plain wisdom... My question is... Is there no way to judge a person's wisdom? Not his way of thinking... not knowledge... wisdom...

This world lacks wisdom... that is also a secret of the mind... a secret yet to be discovered by so many people in this world... a secret that lies in the dark... gathering dust... till its lost... completely lost... to ignorance...

Nice Weekend...

Had a great weekend... I had a doc friend come over... We sat and talked about all kinds of stuff... He's quite a talker... something he said:

Nothing is good or bad but advertising makes it so...

I don't care where he got it from it was the first time I heard it and it was perfect for the topic at that time... That made me think.. Why can't I think of stuff like that when I talk... maybe its becuase I'm not a people's person and I don't like to talk too much...

Silence is heaven...

Movie Cravings

I had DSL installed... Although it's not too fast its good enough...

One of my bad habits I have to admit is watching movies... and that too one after another... I used to do that in college and I have been addicted since... I dunno... it just puts me in another dimension... It's my high...

Anyway... I plan to retire early with a collection of movies and travel to China and live in a village with nothing but a generator that runs the TV and DVD player...

Aahhh.. heaven... :)

Death Penalty...

Thousands of civilians have been killed... and they are still dieing... but more importantly... Wicked men have been put to justice...

Or have they?

Recent overseas re-active attacks by the US after 9/11 have crossed the fine line of justice and wickedness... I'm not sure about you guys but we had some mean girls in our younger days who would make hopscotch lines according to their standards (and sometimes would push you over) so that whoever plays with them eventually loses... For some reason, US is very much similar...

Mr. Osama Laden has still not been captured... which was why Afghanistan was attacked... over one person? hmm... started a civil war... WMDs have not been found... which was why Iraq was attacked... over non-existent weapons? hmm... started a civil war... And now they say US policy doesn't cover civil wars...

Saddam was indeed a wicked man... but many others are just as wicked... But Saddam was sentenced not because of his wickedness... He was sentenced to make a statement... A statement made for the elections... A statement that failed its aim... But still he was sentenced... sentenced in quite an unfair trial disregarding sovereign immunity and disregarding the fact that Saddam was indeed financed by the US...

It is quite obvious from history that US has been using many countries for their interests... The thing that strikes me dead is why don't the country's rulers take heed of this fact... Are they so stupid... or so scared to do this?

Death penalty to all wicked rulers... Saddam, Bush, Blair and the rest...

To see or not to see...

1400 e-mails later... another 1000 something mails left to sort... I think its about time I take a break... from both work and personal things... and take some time out to blab a li'l bit...

Some time ago, actually still going on until now... The debate (not really a debate maybe a "talk") sparked by Jack Straw about Muslims not wearing veil because that obstructs communication... Aisha Azmi getting fired... and attacks on innocent veiled Muslim women... shows (i'm sorry to say) the ignorance and ultimate stupidity of the British nation... Especially where there was a time when woman not wearing modest clothes (possibly with a light veil) would have been considered "loose"...

Suck-ups like Shahid Malik (MP hopeful) and others from Muslim Progressive unions supporting them (i.e. the above) shows (again í'm sorry to say) the ignorance and ultimate stupidity of a people who cannot stick to their beliefs... And won't let those who do...

Let us say the veil obstructs communication... Then I guess a moustache and a beard would do that as well - hiding half of the face... I wonder if they are going to ban beards in public places... Or maybe sunglasses - hides the eyes... or worse both together... How am I to communicate with a person who I cannot see...

Oh but a veil is a piece of cloth and the face is an important part of communication... And what difference will it the piece of cloth make if the voice can be heard... What difference? You talk on telephones and cellphones, listen to the radio and chat with people on the net looking at nothing but your imagination... but you cannot talk to a person who has her face covered... Nice...

The question remains... To see or not to see... Or maybe it should be To veil or not to veil...

I sincerely hope those with strong beliefs do not change... It is only our beliefs that lead us through life and will eventually help us in the afterlife... Kudos to you...

It certainly has been a long time...

I can't believe I haven't written since August... Amazing... Maybe this is what they call Writer's Block (in a Blog)...

In any case, a bit of sanity has returned after a month of almost 0% technology... But work never seems to stop and we start another day either hating ourselves for getting us into whatever we have gotten into or loving ourselves for not getting anywhere and still having something to show for it...

Still there is a lot of work to be done... There always is... and for some reason the only thing that is done is not enough or unsatisfactory... But sometimes new is good... Improving yourself is the only way forward... and by improving yourself, you are eventually improving your surroundings...

Well I'll get back to work... More from me in the next few days hopefully... Stay tuned... :-)

Double Standard?

A couple of months ago we had people almost insulting Saudi Arabia for taking steps against the Danes for their "illegitimate" cartoons depicting their religious hero and Prophet...

Now we have people taking steps against a restaurant with Hitler's name... Why the double standard?

Breeding Terrorism...

There are probably thousands or more likely millions of innocent people out there who are suffering torture from other humans... Some in the name of religion, sect or just plain terrorism...

But why are these innocent people labeled as collateral damage?

Israel seems to not care if thousands of innocent people die because these Hezbollah fighters are among these innocents... Let's say that these fighters are among the innocents, what do we do to reduce casualty? Simply don't give them a reason to attack... Now while you are making a bold statement of destroying what Lebanon built over several centuries, you are breeding terrorism... You are making the terrorists stronger by giving them a reason to recruit innocent people and hand them a weapon to go after you...

Hezbollah doesn't care if innocent people do die... It gives them more of a reason to rebel... And if gives them more power... Because it was them who actually built all that stuff that Israel destroyed and they had gained respect of the local people which Israel has none of... Not before and definitely not now...

The same scene with America and Iraq... America and Afghanistan... America and Iran...

Stop breeding terrorism and that's when you will stop being attacked and/or threatened...

A post I made before.. I guess I predicted this war before it happened... Coincidence?

Ultimate Secrecy

So the World Cup's been done with, first time I cheered for a winning team... Buffon was amazing all time around... Zizou was good as well poor guy got a reddie for his headbutt..

Israel's attacking Gaza for a soldier.. I wonder what happened to the SpecOps and other units who could've done a smash and grab job rather than attacking Gaza's infrastructure, killing innocent people and destroying the government...

Anyway, life goes on... We are in our own world and live our own lives not caring about anybody else.. and when we do care we tend to send some money over to a charity which does as it pleases... We don't go out ourselves... We sit around watching TV changing channels from World Cup to Gaza to a Romance Movie to what not... Our conscience is dead... and we have murdered it... We are all guilty of involuntary manslaughter...

But why? We have been brainwashed by this world, this media, this entertainment and everything around us, to believe in our thoughts (their thoughts), act accordingly and to not think... It is our own willful blindness that has caused chaos in this world and it is going to be worse... and that is... the ultimate secret...